Love (U have the option of not reading this one)

"Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion's starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don't see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often, it's not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it's always there - fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know, none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge - they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I've got a sneaking suspicion... love actually is all around."


These are beautiful lines. Are they not?
The world today has glorified love as a feeling that can be shared only by a boy and a girl. We should take to time to think about the other forms of love as well.
Yesterday, I was talking to a friend. He has this habit of trying to "win" in everything he does. Why do we have to win? What is it that life is, if we are trying to win? A competition or a war?
Why should I ever enter a war? A war signifies hatred in one or the other form. It hampers love and makes a man kill his brother. No. That is not the way I see life.
I feel that with so much hatred in the world, people's faith in love and its power is diminishing but the fact still remains that hatred can destroy but its only love that can create.
Have you ever taken a careful look at the pieces of the jigsaw puzzle of your life? A very major part of it consists of the people you love and even then here is the world, so angry and violent that we are not even able to believe that love exists.
Talking about relationships, I am not good at keeping them but yes, I am trying to learn from my not-so-good past experiences.
To me love is my reason to live. Its my love for me, my sister, my parents, my friends. They are all very important for me. I have had my share of setbacks in relationships and I could call them them bitter experiences but the thing is that in love, nothing is bitter. It is all about knowing and understanding. We fail to understand love. We glamorize it. But, the truth is that love is the most basic feeling.
What is funny is that youngsters think that just because they have had a break up or someone whom they loved, failed to return it, love does not exist. Oh come on! Relationships break because of lack of maturity and not because of lack of love. Love stays on in various forms. Sometimes that form is hatred. But we fail to understand the true nature of it.
Expectations kill relationships. And in love there should not be any.
To me love and happiness are related. If I hate some one else, I cannot love myself either. And that way, I'll be unhappy. So, I have this simple funda of not hating people.
It is just my stance on this sort of a stuff. Nothing else.

Yes, I am a GIRL...

Of course I am a girl but does mean that when I feel jealous, people will give that obvious sigh and say that "We should have expected this. You are a girl after all." I hate this reaction. I hate being called a girl and I have hated it since I was a little girl. My Grand Ma hates me and loves my sister because she can do the kitchen stuff better than me. Now, why is it that girls have been given this weird image of being the evil creatures who keep bitching around, gossip, have no sense, and should do nothing but manage home. Is this not unfair?
Have you ever met guy who has never gossiped in his life? I haven't. So why is there this stigma attached a girl that if you tell her something it is bound to be gossiped about; and if two girls are friends, they are not actually friends, they are secretly enemies.
I have a lot of friends in girls like Aanchal and my sister, even Deepika is a great friend but the thing is that I hate being compared to either of them. All of us are different souls and each soul has a different journey. Then why should anyone compare one of us with the others. I am not jealous just that I hate this tendency of comparison.
Also, something has been troubling me for a while now. Why is it that, however much I try to act mature and good, I end up hating Meenal? Is is envy?
Until last night, I was convinced that it was. But since then I have been analysing the whole situation. How can I envy a person with whom I have nothing in common except that our gender is the same? We come from very different family backgronds, have different friends, have different ideas about life. Then what is it that makes me hate her so much? Its not envy at all.
Its my intolerance of little stupid things she does which I am very particular about. Thats it.
I don't have the slightest of an idea why I am writing this post. Perhaps it is to calm myself down and put an end to the plethora of negative and angry thoughts coming into my mind right now, but its my blog and I can do it.
I just want myself to know that I am a human and I am not the ideal creation of God, but still I am a nice person at heart and that is who I am. If I can live the rest of my life being myself, without faking my choices and being me, I'll consider it my life well lived and perfect in its own respect. I will like it if people see me as a human and not categorize me as being a girl.
I am proud of being a girl and I despite being the evil creature, men think a girl is; it is only a girl who is capable of the love and care a mother, sister and a wife bestow upon men.

Just to share a pasing thought...

I strongly believe that every one we meet as walk the road of life, is a teacher in one or the other way. And each person comes into your life to teach you something and learn something from you. Your experience with him teaches you something and likewise, his experience with you teaches him something. And these two things will never be the same nor is it necessary that each one of us will learn something consciously.
It depends solely on a person, what he wants to extract out of every situation. It is upto a person to feel joy or despair in the best or worst of circumstances.
Similar is the case with a book. When 2 people read the same book, it is not necessary that they will understand the text in the same context. The reason is that both the people are standing at different points on the road of life.
Getting back to the point, I was saying that everyone is a teacher. Then why do we hate people who give us difficult lessons??? Why is the lack of faith in destiny that whatever is happening is happening is happening for good??
It is amusing to see people blame each other for being hurt, cursing others, hating others, etc.
I understand that, when something goes wrong, you are hurt. You put your blame on your freind, the circumstances, destiny, God, etc. and move on. But by doing that we throw away the lesson our teacher intended to give to us.
A break up with a bf/gf or betrayal of a trusted friend: these are the best examples. Why hate these people who took the evil on their name to teach you something that you needed to learn. These people have done you a favour, the best of your friends wouldn't do for you. I sincerely think that these people do not deserve your hatred at all. They deserve respect.
The more you will hate these people, the worse you will feel about yourself. So, by not hating them and respecting them as teachers, recognizing the lesson and accepting them with love, you' ll do yourself a big favour.
I will not ask you to forgive them, because you do not forgive your teachers, you respect them. And by showing respect and love for these people, you'll show faith in the universe and with faith in destiny and love, you can can conquer the world.